Also, in my experience, people generally don't need you to tell them if they are doing their best, they either know they are not on their own and need a cheerleader to manage their own shame or are blissfully unaware of any other way of being, lucky them.
The other thing about holding out and only getting upset once in a great while if all all is that people pay attention when you do.
Love and fear. Love and fear. It is always down to those two things.
by example, my son...by example.
Good one dad.
Also, in my experience, people generally don't need you to tell them if they are doing their best, they either know they are not on their own and need a cheerleader to manage their own shame or are blissfully unaware of any other way of being, lucky them.
The other thing about holding out and only getting upset once in a great while if all all is that people pay attention when you do.